Short answer: yes. Long answer: I’ve taken some time to enjoy my summer and I’m finally (and really) just getting started.
I have learned something REALLY IMPORTANT from this last life experience (and seriously, I really thought I had learned most of what I needed to know). Funny, I didn’t even realize I was doing what I was doing, but once it became clear to me, I could see it and was horrified. So get ready… this is big… are you ready? Here it is:
Sit with it a minute. Think about it. What is going on in your life that is causing you to “wait” for whatever it is? It goes something like this:
— When I lose those 20 pounds…
— When the kids go back to school…
— After we get back from vacation …
— As soon as I get a job…
Sometime in August, I realized I was waiting. Waiting for that new job to start living again. It’s not that I sit around all day doing nothing. I have had a great summer, but I’ve still been mostly “marking time.”
For me, it took having a discussion with my husband about making some home renovations, and every suggestion he had was met with “well, let’s wait till I find my job” from me. He’s trying to live his life, and I’m sitting here saying “Wait!”
Well, I’m not waiting anymore. I first started blogging about The Man and my life six years ago with a post about why we got married in the first place. Nobody can promise you tomorrow. You have today. So don’t waste it!
I have learned (as I’m sure, have you) that it’s tough… when there’s something going on that weighs on your mind more than anything else. You spend a lot of mental energy worrying about things that aren’t necessarily making any progress. For example, worrying about getting a new job doesn’t help me do it. Applying for appropriate jobs, perfecting my resume, writing a brilliant cover letter — those things help. Worrying does not.
I’ve joined a couple of groups of people going through a life “work” transition, but I admit, I don’t go. There’s something tremendously depressing about other people going through what I’m going through, and I don’t need to be depressed on top of everything else!
So, September 7 is my START OVER date. Pick yours. Make a plan. Get going with it. Don’t kick yourself while you’re down. Give yourself a break every once in a while. And don’t be a downer. People don’t want to spend time with downers. Enjoy this experience. Grow. Learn. Laugh. There is a reason we’re going through this. There is something we’re set up to learn. So enjoy. Embrace. And get ready — the next big thing is just around the corner.