Life Pivot – Are We Still Pivoting?

Short answer: yes.  Long answer: I’ve taken some time to enjoy my summer and I’m finally (and really) just getting started.

I have learned something REALLY IMPORTANT from this last life experience (and seriously, I really thought I had learned most of what I needed to know).  Funny, I didn’t even realize I was doing what I was doing, but once it became clear to me, I could see it and was horrified.  So get ready… this is big… are you ready?  Here it is:


Sit with it a minute.  Think about it.  What is going on in your life that is causing you to “wait” for whatever it is? It goes something like this:

— When I lose those 20 pounds…

— When the kids go back to school…

— After we get back from vacation …

— As soon as I get a job…

Sometime in August, I realized I was waiting.  Waiting for that new job to start living again.  It’s not that I sit around all day doing nothing.  I have had a great summer, but I’ve still been mostly “marking time.”

For me, it took having a discussion with my husband about making some home renovations, and every suggestion he had was met with “well, let’s wait till I find my job” from me.  He’s trying to live his life, and I’m sitting here saying “Wait!”

Well, I’m not waiting anymore.  I first started blogging about The Man and my life six years ago with a post about why we got married in the first place.  Nobody can promise you tomorrow.  You have today.  So don’t waste it!

I have learned (as I’m sure, have you) that it’s tough… when there’s something going on that weighs on your mind more than anything else.  You spend a lot of mental energy worrying about things that aren’t necessarily making any progress.  For example, worrying about getting a new job doesn’t help me do it.  Applying for appropriate jobs, perfecting my resume, writing a brilliant cover letter — those things help.  Worrying does not.

I’ve joined a couple of groups of people going through a life “work” transition, but I admit, I don’t go.  There’s something tremendously depressing about other people going through what I’m going through, and I don’t need to be depressed on top of everything else!

So, September 7 is my START OVER date.  Pick yours.  Make a plan.  Get going with it.  Don’t kick yourself while you’re down.  Give yourself a break every once in a while.  And don’t be a downer.  People don’t want to spend time with downers.  Enjoy this experience.  Grow. Learn. Laugh. There is a reason we’re going through this.  There is something we’re set up to learn.  So enjoy. Embrace. And get ready — the next big thing is just around the corner.lakeunion.jpg

Life Pivot – How’s it Going?

Well that’s a loaded question! It’s been nearly a month since I started this journey and sometimes I feel  like my whole world has expanded, and other times I feel like I haven’t budged an inch!

What I’m finding is that my feelings about progress are directly related to the amount of work I do to ensure I make some: whether it’s networking, blogging, planning, reading a helpful book or learning more about a topic. The only reason that’s relevant is that there are days when I just don’t feel like it — any of it. That sounds lazy, I know. But I know I’m not lazy. I think I’m just tired. It’s been a long haul, and I’m tired. So I’m trying not to let it get me down, and I’m letting my body dictate how much I get done.  Continue reading